If your understanding of female ejaculation is based solely on what you’ve heard or seen in pornography, allow us to re-introduce you.
Female ejaculation – also known as squirting – is a sexual phenomenon mysterious to many, thanks to a lack of thorough education on the subject. Do you remember your middle school or high school sex-ed class? Chances are none of those classes ever included talk of orgasms, let alone a female’s orgasm.
Unfortunately, due to the lack of widespread enlightenment regarding the subject, female ejaculation has become extremely esoteric. As a direct result of female ejaculation being a quieted topic many people have learned to rely on the wrong sources for information about it. Cue female ejaculation’s tumultuous relationship with pornography.
Even the terminology with which porn refers to the female ejaculate is problematic. It is often referred to as “squirting” within the adult film industry, a term that Deborah Sundahl, a sex educator and the author of Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot, finds damaging.
“‘Squirting’ is a porn term [that] I feel diminishes the accuracy of both the name and act of female ejaculation, which is overflowing with fountainous expressions of feminine erotic joy,” Sundahl tells HelloFlo.
Since 2003, Sundahl has been working to educate people on the g-spot and female ejaculation through literature and workshop events.
Her brand of sexual education – with a specific emphasis on female orgasm, ejaculation, and the G-spot – places emphasis on the importance of female pleasure. Sundahl strives to break down these boundaries in a way that’s both educational and accessible.
“I see a vast Western world where only about 40% of people know about female ejaculation and even less care to try to integrate it into their sex lives,” Sundahl says. “Eighty-five percent live with myths about female ejaculation, which is damaging their relations and their sexual pleasure…”
There is so little understood, in fact, about female ejaculation, that it isn’t even known how many women are capable of this sexual feat. Research drastically varies, with some studies reporting 6% of women can female ejaculate, while others report 60% of women do. That drastic gap is telling of just how little is certain about the female ejaculate.
“I would not say that our society is sensationalizing [female ejaculation]; they have in fact suppressed the information about it. While you see some articles online, they are not mainstream, nor are these sensationalized,” Sundahl points out. “In fact, these articles, are trying very hard to educate the vast majority of people who are interested in female ejaculation real and valuable ways to learn how to do it and what it is.”
In fact, the most common place to find content on female ejaculation is in the adult film market. Because of the sensationalized version seen in porn – (women are often encouraged to pee during orgasm or actually fill their vaginas with water!) – many uneducated men and women remain unsure if female ejaculation is nothing but myth.
Except it’s not a myth; it’s a concrete reality for many women who experience pleasure in that way. However, the real female ejaculate is likely a far cry from what is seen on our computer screens.
“Adult film actresses are – let us remember –actresses. Nonetheless, most of them have the physical pelvic floor strength and the uninhibited erotic emotionality to fully ejaculate copious amounts and shoot it out of their body with their muscles. which can look spectacular,” Sundahl says. “On film, ‘spectacular’ is what we want to see, right?”
Now that you know the version of female ejaculation that isn’t so true, here’s a breakdown of what female ejaculate actually is.
The Facts About Female Ejaculation
- Female ejaculate consists of a small amount of white, milky fluid
- It contains traces of urine, diluted with substances from the female prostate called prostatic-specific antigen (PSA)
- Female ejaculation is produced in the Skene’s gland, located at the back wall of the vagina, near the G-spot or female prostate
- It is widely thought by sex experts and educators in the field that all women are capable, as all females have a Skene’s gland
How can you learn to achieve female ejaculation?
Deborah Sundahl compiled several tips for those willing to try to integrate female ejaculation into their sexual experiences.
- Your G-spot is your fully functioning female prostate. Know that female ejaculation is prostatic fluid, which means that all women can ejaculate, if they choose to.
- The G-spot or prostate has a different nerve than the clitoris or penis, therefore a totally different orgasmic sensation – a full bodied, deeply satiating orgasm that opens your heart and unleashes your creativity! The g-spot orgasm has far more to offer women than the clitoris orgasm.
- Do not vibrate the G-spot; it has a different nerve. Different orgasm, different approach. Rather, relax, breath, focus on the sensation in your G-spot. Take some yoga or meditation and you can access this deeper part of your lovely, erotic self much easier!
- Don’t do and do not allow the ‘jackhammer’ method that you see in porn to be applied to your delicate prostate – ever!
The ultimate tip for women looking to enhance their sexual experience is more about self-awareness than anything physical.
“Take control of your own body and get to know it intimately,” Deborah advises. “You will find that sharing with your partner is so much easier because you feel more confident and [your partner] is at ease [and] doesn’t have to guess anymore.”
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