We’ve all seen porn at some point, whether by accident when it popped up surfing the web, or on purpose because we got curious. It can feel wrong to enjoy something that objectifies women or creates unrealistic expectations. It seems like enjoying it is somehow sexist, that indulging in arousal makes you a bad person. And in my opinion, ladies, that in itself is misogyny.
I think that if we can’t watch, read, or hear a good old-fashioned sex scene and get aroused without feeling guilty, something is seriously wrong. It may seem like fake boobs and degrading scenes are all it has to offer, but in reality, there is something out there for everyone that won’t make you sick or slimy. Porn is proven to improve your sexual satisfaction, and it helps improve sleep and self-confidence.
Don’t believe me? Here are five myths about porn (and how it relates to women) to consider.
Myth #1: Porn is only for men.
The biggest misconception about porn is that women aren’t meant to watch it at all because it wasn’t “made” for us. This isn’t true! In fact, the entire point of porn is that there is something for everyone. The key is to find something that intrigues you and that is all about discovering your own sexuality.
Myth #2: All porn is fake.
This is under the same umbrella that there is only one “kind” of porn. That “stereotypical” type of porn has its own demographic, but that is just a portion of it. There are videos where both parties are really enjoying themselves and watching videos like this can expand your horizons and open your mind to a new world of sexual possibility.
It’s hard to come onto a porn site and click the first video on the homepage and expect to like it. But there are so many different genres, fetishes, orientations, toys, games, and kinks. You’re bound to find something that gets you into it. It might seem counterintuitive to type “romantic” into the search bar of a porn site, but if that’s what you’re looking for, do it. Don’t be scared; no one will know.
Myth #3: Porn creates unrealistic expectations of sex.
Sometimes it can feel like porn stars are raising the bar of what is expected from the average women in the bedroom. And although your man might like to watch things like this, a caring partner doesn’t push you to do things that you aren’t ready for. No one expects you to do what a porn star does, or to look how she looks. Every single woman is beautiful because we each look different. Everyone has a different shape, different breasts, different legs, the works, and it’s those differences that make us uniquely lovable. Your sexual environment should feel safe for you to explore your desires without guilt or pressure, all while feeling beautiful.
Myth #4: Watching lesbian porn makes you gay.
For too long, women have been over-thinking their sexuality. It can be intimidating when someone else is involved and you don’t want to be judged, but the best part about watching porn is that there is absolutely no reason to feel guilty, different, or weird.
If you see something that makes you a little hot and bothered, you’re the only one stopping yourself from enjoying it. No one is pointing fingers at you!
Myth #5: Porn is just for orgasm.
Orgasms are grand, don’t get me wrong. But a lot of the time, women feel like they need to masturbate when watching porn or be incredibly aroused. Porn has no rules. There’s no need to have it over and done with in 10 minutes or less. One of the best things about porn is learning about sex and about yourself. It is so important for women to start feeling comfortable with their desire to feel sexy and to start enjoying sex for themselves instead of just to please their partner.
Porn is a tool to help you open your mind to sex and relieve yourself of judgment, guilt, and expectation. Get out of your head, browse a little, and discover a new part of yourself. And obviously, be careful: You’re headed to the deepest depths of the internet, so proceed with caution.
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