Being a mom is an exhausting 24-hour job, which makes any alone time an extremely rare event.
As a new mom myself, I find it rather difficult for me to have my much needed introvert time. I love my kiddo, but sometimes, I just need a break. That is why it is vitally important that moms consciously set aside some alone time in their daily schedule.
Because parenting is so nonstop, you may have to get a little creative in finding that alone time. Every mom is different, but here are some ways that I have found to be helpful in taking care of myself amidst a really busy schedule.
1. Indulge Yourself
A good long bubble bath does wonders for me and instantly relaxes me. On especially stressful days, I try to take a bubble bath during one of my son’s naps. Just bring the monitor in the bathroom with you, light some candles, play some music, and chill!
2. Go for a Long Drive
My kid loves car rides and almost always falls asleep the minute we start driving. On days when I’m extra tired, I like to go for a nice long drive. Stop and get a milkshake and listen to some relaxing music (or none at all if you are like me and just want complete silence) during your drive.
3. Go to a Hair Salon
Seriously, go, even if you just go for a blow out. Trust me, there is something about having someone fix your hair that will make you feel like a new woman. Get a friend to watch your kids for a bit, and go treat yourself! It’ll keep you sane.
4. Read a Lot
There is no reason that you should give up reading once you become a parent. If you enjoy reading try to make it a priority. Once you put your kids to bed, pour yourself a glass of wine and read for a little bit. If you don’t have time to do this every night, try to set aside a couple of nights a week just for you to catch up on your reading (or, as an alternative, your favorite Netflix show!).
5. Get Outside
If it is nice outside, go for a long walk or go to the park. Being in the sunshine will make you feel better, and it will be a fun activity for the kids as well. Go get that iced coffee and just enjoy the outdoors and the fresh air.
These are just a few things that I try to do to help me feel mentally sane. Make relaxation a priority in your schedule! Don’t feel guilty about having your alone time. In order to be the best parent that you can possibly be, you need to make sure that you are having time to recharge. If you are feeling overwhelmed and don’t know how to carve out that time, ask a friend for help. Have them come over and watch your kids while you take a shower, exercise, or even just have some good ole’ Target therapy. Don’t be afraid to ask for help!