4 Messages About Romantic Relationships the Media Should Be Sending to Young Women

4 Messages About Romantic Relationships the Media Should Be Sending to Young Women

As I finish up my week of school and work, I begin to look through my DVD collection. A movie and popcorn sounds like the perfect way to end the stressful week. I stumble upon titles such as The Notebook, A Cinderella Story and 10 Things I Hate About You. 

I’ve always been a fan of romance movies and I grew up comparing my life to one. I soon realized, however, there are many misconceptions brought on by the media when it comes to romance. I believe it’s important to recognize these misconceptions and understand the realities of relationships. Here are four realities that often aren’t depicted by the media.


1. Romantic Relationships Are Not Everything

There are so many movies that make romantic relationships seem like the center of life. These relationships are important; however, there is so much more to focus on. It is important to spend time building and creating yourself too.

Whether this be through focusing on a career or realizing goals, each person has a unique journey that is extremely special. Who you are dating does not have ot be the most important part of your life.


2. Not Everyone Will Find Their Soulmate in High School 

This is one misconception I really struggled with. From television shows like Glee to movies like High School Musical, I thought there was something seriously wrong with me when I left high school without having my first kiss.

When I was in high school, I started feeling an extreme pressure to date. I felt as if I was missing out an essential part of the high school experience. It’s important to realize that each person has a different path when it comes to relationships. There is so much to life beyond high school years, and it’s important to remember the adventure is only beginning.


3. Some Relationships Do Not End in “Happily Ever After” 

While the idea of finding your soulmate on the first date is exciting, that is definitely not always the case. It’s often important to date different kinds of people to develop an understanding of what you’re looking for in a relationship. Getting to know different kinds of people is important and completely healthy. You may even date someone for months thinking you’ve found “the one” and later realize you weren’t right for each other at all. Not every relationship ends in happily ever after, and that’s okay.


4. Relationships Are Imperfect

There will be good days and bad days in every relationship. You may not always get along or be on the same page as your partner. This is what makes a relationship so special: Two individuals work to find a common understanding. Most days will be good days, but every now and then, hard times will come.

The media often paints an unrealistic picture and makes relationships seem picture-perfect. It’s not always easy, even if you’ve found the perfect person. It will always be worth it, though. It’s important to remember that the best things in life are worth fighting for.


Don’t get me wrong, I am the biggest fan of cheesy romantic movies; I will be the first to suggest a Nicholas Sparks classic on movie nights. I do believe, however, it’s important to understand the realities of relationships. The image painted by the media is not 100% accurate—and it’s important to recognize that.

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