My libido peaked at 17 and that was it — I was tapped out at the ripe age of 25.
I first started noticing a difference in my libido last year after seven years of suffering from vaginismus. I asked my doctor about premenopausal symptoms — sex wasn’t interesting to me anymore and everything in between had its ups and downs. I found myself forcing any interest.
One in three women are uninterested in sex. Hormonal contraceptives, like the pill or the patch, can contribute to imbalances and can alter how women react to sexual stimulation and situations. For myself, I had equated sex with pain for much of my life and I had been on the pill since I was 14. Everything was going against me at this point. At 26, I decided something had to budge.
According to WedMD, “Women’s sexuality tends to be multifaceted and fairly complicated,” and “although we would love to simplify it so we could have the one-two or even a one-punch treatment, it doesn’t tend to work that way.” While men have treatments for erectile dysfunction, the female viagra pill comes with more complaints than successes. While there isn’t a quick fix to the situation, there are a few easy steps to take in order to regain your sex drive.
Move on from the pill
After my birth control pill was inducing premenopausal symptoms, I decided to switch to an IUD. 40% of women experience “improvements to their sexual well-being” after the insertion of an IUD. Oral contraceptives decrease male hormones which surpasses testosterone and results in the suppression of sexual desire. A natural decline is bound to happen when being on the birth control pill for long amounts of time.
Disconnect from everything and physically connect
This may be obvious, as we are all over-stimulated and over-worked in 2016, but connecting with your partner without any technology or stimulants is key to efficiently being present in the moment. Exercises like Sensate Focus can help couples ground themselves in the bedroom, while simultaneously bringing back the spark when days are filled with burnout, stress, and anxiety. Massages, slow caressing, and overall verbal communication are essential in relationships.
Find an outside resource
While finding time with your significant other is incredibly important, finding alone time is a close tie. Whether you have a sexual partner or not, budgeting for a battery-operated toy can be highly beneficial in understanding your anatomy and your sexual desires. Having your partner use your toy on you can add excitement to your experience together as well. Utilizing the disadvantage of a low libido can help you explore areas of your body that were previously untapped.
There could be several factors as to why someone has a low libido. Always remember to visit your doctor and fill them in on any medical concerns and deeper issues. Keep in mind that all relationships and all body’s go through highs and lows, ebbs and flows, and you shouldn’t be discouraged if you aren’t feeling up to par 100% of the time.