According to Kindara, the company behind the fertility app by the same name, women want more sex in 2017.
Their survey of 1,309 women showed 71% of women want more sex, as opposed to 53% in 2015. The survey didn’t stop there, it also found that 46% of women would like to have more adventurous sex and 56% want sex that’s better than they’ve ever had before.
The overall message that’s been confirmed by study after study is that women value quality over quantity when it comes to sex, and that if it isn’t fun and satisfactory there’s room for improvement.
A big bridge for women in sex is their confidence, according to Kindara.
“I believe that as women learn more about their cycles, they become more in-tune and confident with their bodies,” Raychel Muenke Ph.D., EVP of Kindara told Bustle. “This confidence could be a reason more women are speaking up to say they want more sex (and more adventurous sex). Now more than ever before women are being more vocal about what they want!”
Here are three ways you can have better sex in 2017:
Add it to Your Calendar
Scheduling sex may seem to lack spontaneity, but it can give you and your partner something to look forward to. Making sure you have time to spend together during a busy week is a great way to spice up your sex drive and assure your intimacy isn’t on the back burner. “Scheduling and making sexual and emotional intimacy a priority for couples is healthy,” clinical psychologist Claire Nicogossian, Psy.D. tells Women’s Health Magazine.
Don’t Fake It
Be open with your partner about what feels good for you, and alternatively, what doesn’t. Making sex a pleasurable experience for yourself is just as important as satisfying your partner. Wendy Walsh, Ph.D., and author of The 30-Day Love Detox, says “You should never fake an orgasm, that thing he was doing wrong—he’s now going to keep doing it.” Being honest and communicative, either by expressing it in bed or discussing it outside of the bedroom, assures your partner is knowledgable about what you enjoy.
Feel Good About Your Body
Love who you are naked. Appreciating your body, and being confident in yourself will boost your sex life. Sex therapist Laura Berman, PhD, and author of The Passion Prescription tells Fitness Magazine, “Typically, when a woman looks at herself, her eyes go straight to her problem areas, She carries that feeling into the bedroom, and when her partner’s kissing her thighs, she’s busy thinking, ‘God, I’m so fat!'”Give yourself compliments, and focus on what you love about yourself– rather than what makes you feel flawed.”